The longhui courtship house at Binglanggu, its mud walls hung with red lanterns and red cloth.

The Longing House

Marriage, Myth, and Tourism in Coastal Hainan

In the villages of Sanya and Lingshui, Li courtship and marriage customs are disappearing. Not all at once. Unevenly, and replaced by different things in different places.

In one village, a matchmaking house stands empty. In another, it has been rebuilt for tourists, staffed by actors reciting rehearsed lines. In a museum, the culture sits behind a padlock. On a fishing raft, a mural borrows the language of romance to describe ethnic unity. On a hillside where a legend of eternal love began, a marriage registration office now glows at night.

This project follows that spectrum, from lived tradition to performance to institution. It asks a simple question: what has replaced these customs, and who decided what would take their place?

Vanishing

A village awarded “five-star” status by the government. Its cultural center is empty. Its guesthouses have closed. Its grandmothers refuse to be photographed.

A tall project information board at the entrance to Zhongliao village.
“Total planned area: 28,590 mu. 23 natural villages. 1,394 households. 7,202 people.” — from the project signage.
A guesthouse signpost standing beside a village road in Zhongliao.
The guesthouse closed two years ago. The sign stayed up. The government had required it.
Three old stone grinding wheels leaning against a mossy stone wall beside a pile of soil.
The front of a small village shop in Zhongliao.
She has lived here for decades. She would not be photographed.
A family shop in Zhongliao village.
Her aunt left as a teenager. Chengdu, Chongqing, Shanghai, Beijing. She kept looking for opportunity.
A village house in Zhongliao with a paved path in front of it.
Her house was taken for a government project office. When the project ended, she came home. The dirt path she once dried her harvest on was already paved.
The gate of the Zhongliao village cultural center, its blue sign rusting under coconut palms, with no one inside.
A farm restaurant in Zhongliao, its rustic decor more polished than the houses around it.
“The rural development project helped my business a great deal.” The owner is not Li, and not from Hainan.

Performance

Where tradition survives most visibly, someone is often paid to perform it.

The exterior of a traditional Li house at Binglanggu.
Twenty minutes from Zhongliao, behind a theme-park entrance.
An elderly woman in traditional dress weaving a basket in front of a thatched house at Binglanggu.
Two houses, mirrored. Two women in identical dress, weaving at the same speed. Everything arranged. Nothing quite real.
The longhui courtship house at Binglanggu, hung with red lanterns and red cloth.
A house built for young Li couples to court. It could not be found in the real village. Only here.
The interior of the courtship house at Binglanggu.
Every explanation came out fluent, rehearsed, like a script.
A hand with chopsticks reaching over bowls of vegetables and meat on a wooden table.
After forty minutes, someone came to film us eating. Before we left, they asked for a good review online.
The modern museum building at Bulongzhai, large and empty. A faded and peeling sign at the museum entrance in Bulongzhai.

Both, it seems to me, were rough decisions made from a shallow understanding of what they were transforming.

A rusted padlock on the museum door at Bulongzhai.
“Bulongzhai” means “wishing you happiness” in Li. The museum door is shut with a rusted padlock.

Displacement

Love becomes a language for something else. Ethnic unity. Tourism slogans. Marriage law. The myth stays, but only as decoration.

The Danjia fishing rafts seen from above, floating on the water off Lingshui.
There is no road to the raft. Only a boat, or a swim.
A bright cartoon mural on a tiled building wall reading, in Chinese, fish and water fall in love, ethnicities merge as one.
A mural on the wall: “Fish and water fall in love. Ethnicities merge as one.” The language of romance, used to describe something else.
Fishing boats moored side by side, three men sitting on a bow, a white lattice building behind them.
“What do you want to ask? I don’t know anything.” She turned and walked away.
A man standing alone on the wooden deck of a floating raft house, laundry hung on a line beside him.
A man stands alone on the raft’s deck, laundry drying beside him. It is where he lives.
Dozens of square net pens framed in timber and blue barrels, stretching away from the raft houses across the water.
Dozens of net pens, wood and blue barrels, stretch out from the rafts. This is a farm. It simply floats.
An inscription about the Luhuitou legend in the park at Luhuitou.
“The sea may run dry. The stone may crumble. Love is eternal.” — from the Luhuitou legend.
The marriage registration office in Luhuitou park, lit at night.

It asks a simple question: what has replaced these customs, and who decided what would take their place?